We Only Fear the Unknown…


Life tends to throw odd things at us, new things, unknown things. We as people tend to fear these things… It’s human nature to fear the unknown… What is even worse is that when we are afraid we make stupid decisions… Snap decisions. Fight or flight. Some of us throw our fist up in the air and some of us run to safety. Human nature… It’s maddening because when we follow this instinct we often get hurt either way, we often loose sight of what really matters in our lives because rarely do we really need to survive a situation… I am sure no one has a clue as to what I’m talking about, good, just think about it, how ever it may apply to life. I do not know what will happen but it sure is scaring me… Time to jump right??

It’s funny. a lot of us MS’ers are so quick to cut people out of our lives, often for good reasons too, but I am certain I am not the only one who has kept a select few of the people I know in my life despite the fact that they should be kicked out. Maybe they have been allowed to stick around for some sort of comfort? Maybe we never realized that there is better out there in the world? I do not know… Well I have been working on this issue lately. As you can see above, there are some missing photos on my wall… Well, actually, they are not missing because they no longer belong there. I took a leap and kicked a couple of people out in hopes of starting fresh. Maybe this will bite me in the butt but it felt like the right thing to do.

Life is speeding at me so quickly now, it’s like everyday I learn something new or see something in a different  shade of grey, it’s almost hard to keep up! But I want more, more of this drug called transcendentalism… That is how it feels at least. So I am trying not to shy away, trying not to fall victim to my primal instincts that tell me “Run, run, run! Hide!”. It’s hard but it’s almost necessary, necessary for me to obtain that which I desire… So I try… Will I succeed? I do not know but I will try.

The past is but a ghost whom wishes to haunt our present, turn it into it’s purgatory where it never has to face the future, face the unknown… Well I am done mourning the death of my past and I wish to move on, I have suffered in this purgatory long enough, it is time to move on.

What is important to keep in mind is that when attempting something new, it will always be scary because there is always some unknown element to a new endeavor. Since it is new you can seek no definite direction from your experience, only recommendations. So simply keep your goal in mind and try your best to catch your mistakes as early as possible, take a few steps back when necessary, learn from those small mistakes, than continue on forward, one foot in front of the other.

“In the end everything will be OK, if it’s not OK, than it’s not the end yet.”

“All good things to those who wait”

7 thoughts on “We Only Fear the Unknown…

  • May 29, 2012 at 6:38 pm

    Very well written! I don`t have MS but I can relate in many ways. I have just stopped being afraid of everything. It feels good, but sometimes the most scary thing is not to be afraid…..
    I really am glad to read this optimistic post of yours. You are very brave!! I wish you all the best:)
    But there is one thing I am wondering about. Why do you MSers cut people out of your lives? What can we do to still stay in your lives? Because I really want to. But why is it so hard?

  • May 30, 2012 at 12:52 pm

    All the world is a stage. I don`t think anyone is real all the time.

  • May 30, 2012 at 3:04 pm

    Maybe, idk? Trying to let go of my old mentality and try something new for a while :^b

  • May 30, 2012 at 11:36 pm

    Matt, this is a wonderful, well written post and one that really hits home. I am one that can cut toxic people out of my life easily, family as well as acquaintances. For me, it's not an MS thing, it's just the way I am. If they bring nothing but negativity, stress and heartache into your life, you will be better off without them. Yes, it can be scary as hell and can push you way outside your comfort zone, but trust me, you will be OK. I also found it interesting that you “see something in a different shade of grey”. That is how I have always described myself. Most people see things in black and white but I see things in shades of grey. You are the only other person I’ve ever heard refer to it that way. LOL Not sure if you have ever listened to contemporary country but Rascal Flatts has a song that you could sure relate to – “I’m Moving On”. Check it out. 🙂

  • May 31, 2012 at 2:58 am

    i agree with @MS Cherokee that that Rascal Flatts song is really amazing. I recommend any of their songs actually 🙂
    but, like you said, some people do fear the unknown, some people do make stupid decisions–but maybe some are still worth forgiving? worth fighting for even when they truly mess up? I understand that you have been through a lot, and some of them may be unforgivable, but there has to be ones out there that you wish you hadn't cut out? Maybe I'm just wrong, but I'm just speaking from personal experience.
    Right now I'm trying to fight for someone who I treated like…..like the way I said I would never treat them. It really opens up your eyes, and I notice now the errors I have made. Sometimes we just get caught up in hectic schedules, school, work, you name it that causes you to lose touch with what really matter. Maybe try to see life through their eyes, like what they are going through too; really assess the situation. People do make mistakes. Human Error happens. I understand some people really mess up, but I hope you're not cutting a lot of people out now for hurting you only once. What I mean is that hopefully you're cutting them out for a really good reason, that they aren't worth your time. Maybe give them a second chance, then if they mess up that, then leave? I'm not sure. I know this was a mess of random thoughts, just maybe look into it. And I don't know if I really worded this correctly, but I really wish you the best of luck in the future with your friends!!

  • May 31, 2012 at 3:20 am

    Hah… Rascal Flatts… No, I do not listen to country heh…. But shades of grey, that is just the bet way to put life I suppose haha?

    Everyone I have cut out has "messed up" on way more than one occasion…. UGH, sorry, I can't write a huge reply right now, life is just… Funny…


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